In your Animal Crossing Bells initial post you talked about defending the identity predicated on years of experiencing oppression, which is completely legit. But that is now how the event that contributed to this occurred.

It is similar to that video where that girl attacks a guy with dreadlocks while saying"stop appropriating my civilization" over and over again. People made the same remarks like you did, but the truth is, she did not give him a very long speech about how she understands that dreadlocks have been common across the world, but she's still sensitive about it seeing white folks with guards, because for a long time black people have been told that they're dirty and don't seem like actual people unless they straighten their hair.

No, instead she was smiling while assaulting him and was a arrogant piece of shit. If you would like to discuss the nuance of a situation, then you have not be ignorant yourself. The nuance isn't a shield you can just slip under the door after you have acted like a total bully.

Also, what cultural meaning do hair buns, that are common across the planet have in this respect? I'm actually reminded of the Chinese apparel dilemma, where twitter bullied a white girl wearing it, to get precisely the same"you don't understand the cultural meaning" reason, until the actual Chinese state cheap Animal Crossing New Horizons Bells account on twitter(iirc) told me that it's totally fine and she looks terrific.